To Skip or to Hold Back

I was reading an article about a proposal in the UK to raise the school starting (kindergarten) age from 5 to 6. Now, I realize that the British and American educational systems are disparate enough that relating this to our country is akin to comparing apples to oranges. But the basic premise behind this proposal still stands-- are children starting school at too young an age? This article followed on the heels of another one I'd also read this morning-- To Skip a Grade or Hold a Child Back?

In a nutshell, I believe the answer is really "it depends". Depends on the child, depends on his school, depends on the parents, depends on the resources available. And ultimately, I would like to think that this sort of decision is based on the child's best interest: i.e. his/her readiness for it, both socially and academically. I thought this was a no-brainer.

Silly me.

As I started reading the comments on the British article, I was appalled by how many people related stories of friends/family/acquaintances who held their children back not because the kids weren't ready, but because they wanted their kids to be the oldest/biggest in their class, thereby giving them an edge in sports.

WTF!? THAT is your priority!? That has nothing to do with the child's best interests and everything to do with a parent's ego and selfish pride. I cannot fathom that there are parents out there who would willingly hamper a child's education for the sole reason that they want the kid to be bigger than his classmates!? Are they raising bullies or something?? Mind-boggling.

Besides, being the biggest in your class isn't always a good thing. Hubby went through school at the normal ages, but during his freshman year of high school, he was already 6'4" (i.e. the size of a senior, even taller), despite being only 14. First day of sophomore year, someone asks him, in all seriousness, "What are YOU still doing here!?" This also explains why, all throughout high school, people would speak more sloowwwly and more LOUDLY to him ;-)

My own son started kindergarten at age 4, simply because he was ready for it. Not just academically, but, more importantly, socially. We were fortunate enough to find a local private school that had absolutely no qualms about taking on early starters. Turns out-- he wasn't even the only 4-year-old in the class! He's now in 4th grade, and really blossoming, growing socially while making new friends of all ages-- from 1st graders through 5th graders.

On the other hand, one of Todd's preschool classmates actually started kindergarten late-- at age 6 instead of 5. His mother felt that he was not ready for kindergarten, either socially or academically, and I believe she made the right decision. Had she forced him into kindergarten at the prescribed age, he probably would've either been too frustrated or too disruptive-- affecting not only himself, but his classmates. For him, being held back a year was the correct choice, and he seems to be thriving in school now.

Two completely different decisions made on the basis of the exact same thing: what's best for the kid right now? And that's the way it should be. I'm still shaking my head at this "I'll hold my kid back so he'll be bigger" mentality, because that's NOT in the kid's best interest! Sigh... humanity. I worry about it often.

Karaoke Ring of Death: 80's, baby!

May flew by in a flash! Started off with my birthday on the 2nd, before I knew it, it was my son's birthday on the 20th, and time for another round of Karaoke Ring of Death!

The theme for May is 80's songs, which certainly didn't make it easy to narrow down a choice! There were so many I remembered from my junior high school days!

This month I'm hosting Heather of Musings of a Girl. Heather, I believe, is the one who first introduced me to KROD, indirectly, earlier this year. She left a comment on my friend Tabitha's blog about it, my curiosity was piqued, I got a link to the main KROD blog, and the rest, as they say, was history :-)

Today Heather treats us to "Lost In Your Eyes" by the iconically-80's Debbie Gibson... and a cappella on top of that! Awesome!

My own 80's choice was inspired by the recent "Prom-asaurus" episode of Glee. I'm nowhere near as good as Dianna Agron or Naya Rivera, but I had fun learning it and giving it a go. You can find my video on Jes's blog: http://jesgettingstarted.blogspot.com/2012/05/gleeking-out-to-80s.html

And, as always, the master list with everyone's songs can be found here: http://karaokeringofdeath.wordpress.com/2012/05/23/mays-master-list/

Happy listening, and enjoy your trip down memory lane! :-)

Head in the Sand

People are ignorant about different things. And that's perfectly fine. Nobody can know EVERYTHING there is to know in/about the world. And often times, people outright choose to remain ignorant about certain topics, such as current events or politics, maybe even celebrity gossip. Maybe it's just apathy. That is certainly their right, their choice. Nobody can force someone to keep abreast of something they're not interested in.

But where I draw the line is outright FLAUNTING this... willful ignorance. How is that sort of thing anything to be proud of!? I mean, hell, it's bad enough when you choose to bury your head in the sand about relatively important issues in the world, but it's downright shameful to act so high and mighty about it.

I read so many examples of this on STFU, Parents-- often times, it's parents who pooh-pooh the latest breaking news in favor of more important things, obviously: their kids. Stuff like "Oh, I didn't know Osama bin Laden was killed today, I was too busy watching babby take her first steps!". Really? You couldn't have just said "Babby took her first steps today", you had to include the fact that you not only missed the top news story of the day, but you were PROUD of it?

I mean, it's one thing to steer clear of things like trashy gossip. But even then, there is a polite way to express your abstinence from such things. If I said to you "Hey, did you hear about the latest Kim Kardashian escapade?" and you responded with "No, I don't give a FLYING FUCK about the Kardashians"-- I'm sorry, but that's downright RUDE. Let alone if the question was about something a little more edifying, like a statement the President made. It doesn't matter that you have totally valid reasons for not caring about the Kardashians or the President or the election or the stock market or gay marriage rights, you don't have to make such a big deal about this apathy. Just politely say "No, I don't follow X" and move on.

Is that so hard!? Why must apathy be worn as a badge of pride these days??